Facebook: How to See Your Friendship & Relationship History

To see your friendship and relationship history on Facebook, go to your profile, click “Friends,” then click “Manage Friends” and select “All Friends” to view the list with an option to sort by “Recently Added.” For relationship history, go to your “About” section, click “Relationships,” and scroll through your past relationship entries. This article explains the exact steps, what you can and cannot see, and how to interpret the information.

Understanding What Facebook Stores

Facebook automatically logs when you become friends with someone, but it does not store a detailed timeline of every interaction between you and that friend. The “Friendship” history you can see is limited to:

The date you became friends (visible on the friendship page).
A chronological list of your friends, which you can sort by when they were added.
Past relationship statuses you have entered in your profile.

Facebook does not keep a record of when you unfriended someone or when they unfriended you. If you re-add someone, the new friendship date replaces the old one. Similarly, relationship history is only what you have voluntarily added to your profile; it does not include private messages or off-platform interactions.

Viewing Your Friendship History on Desktop

To see the date you became friends with a specific person on a computer:

Go to the profile of the person you want to check.
Click the “Friends” button (it may show “Friends” or a checkmark).
Select “See Friendship” from the dropdown menu.
You will see a page that shows the date you became friends, along with any mutual friends and a shared photo album (if any).

This page is the only place that shows the exact date. On the mobile app, the path is similar: tap the “Friends” button on the profile, then tap “See Friendship.” Note that if the person has restricted their profile, you may not see this option.

Viewing Your Full Friends List Chronologically

If you want to see a list of all your friends in the order you added them:

Click “Friends” on your own profile (desktop) or tap “Friends” in the menu (mobile).
On desktop, click “Manage Friends” in the top right corner.
Click “All Friends” on the left sidebar.
Use the “Sort by” dropdown and choose “Recently Added.”

This shows your friends from newest to oldest, but it does not show dates. For a specific date, you must visit the individual friendship page as described above. The mobile app does not have a “Recently Added” sort option in the same way, so you may need to use the desktop site (via a mobile browser) for this feature.

Viewing Your Relationship History

Facebook allows you to list past and current relationships on your profile. To see the history you have entered:

Go to your profile and click “About” (desktop) or tap the three-dot menu on your profile (mobile).
Select “Relationships” from the left menu (desktop) or under “About” (mobile).
You will see a list of all relationship entries you have added, including the names and dates if you entered them.

You can only see relationship entries that you have made public or visible to yourself. If you never added a relationship, there will be nothing to see. Facebook does not track relationships automatically; it only shows what you have manually entered. If you want to hide your history, you can edit each entry’s audience or delete it entirely.

What You Cannot See

There are several limitations to Facebook’s friendship and relationship history:

Unfriending history: Facebook does not log when you unfriend someone. Once you unfriend, the friendship date is lost, and if you re-add, a new date is set.
Interaction history: You cannot see a log of past messages, likes, or comments in a single “history” view. You would need to scroll through your activity log or the conversation thread.
Relationship duration: If you did not enter a start and end date for a relationship, you cannot see how long it lasted.
Other people’s history: You cannot see the friendship history between two other people unless you are friends with both and they have made it public.

Some third-party apps claim to show “friendship history” or “who unfriended you,” but these are not official Facebook features. They often require your login credentials or access to your data, which is a security risk. Facebook’s official policy prohibits such apps, and they can compromise your account.

Using Your Activity Log for Related Data

While there is no direct “friendship history” page, your Activity Log can show related actions you have taken, such as:

When you sent or accepted a friend request (if you enabled that activity).
When you changed your relationship status.
When you removed a friend (if you did it recently, it might appear as “Removed friend”).

To access your Activity Log: click your profile picture, then “Activity Log” (desktop) or tap the three-line menu and select “Activity Log” (mobile). From there, you can filter by “Connections” to see friend requests and relationship changes. However, the log is not complete for older actions, and it does not show the exact date of every friendship.

Privacy and Security Considerations

Your friendship and relationship history is private by default, but you can control who sees it:

On your profile, click “About” > “Relationships” and use the audience selector next to each entry to change it to “Only Me,” “Friends,” or “Public.”
For your friends list, you can hide it entirely by going to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Privacy > “How people find and contact you” and changing “Who can see your friends list?” to “Only Me.”

Be cautious about sharing your Activity Log or friendship dates with third-party apps. Never grant an app permission to read your friends list or relationship status unless you trust it, as this data can be misused. Facebook’s own settings are the only safe way to view this information.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I see when I unfriended someone on Facebook?

No, Facebook does not store a record of when you unfriended someone. Once you remove a friend, the friendship date is deleted, and there is no official way to retrieve it. Your Activity Log might show the action if it was recent, but it is not reliable for older events.

Why can’t I see the “See Friendship” option on someone’s profile?

This option appears only if you are friends with the person and they have not restricted their profile. If the person has blocked you, or if your privacy settings limit how others can view your friendship, the option may be hidden. Also, the option is not available for pages or non-friend profiles.

Can I see my relationship history with a specific person?

Yes, if you have entered relationship entries with that person in your “About” > “Relationships” section, you can see them. However, Facebook does not show a timeline of when you were in a relationship with someone unless you manually added start and end dates. There is no separate “history” for each person.

How do I see the date I became friends with someone on the mobile app?

Open the person’s profile, tap the “Friends” button (it shows a checkmark if you are friends), then tap “See Friendship.” This will show the date you became friends. If you do not see this option, you may need to use a desktop browser.

Is there a way to download my full friendship history?

You can download a copy of your Facebook data, which includes your friends list and relationship entries, but it does not include the date you became friends with each person. To download: Settings & Privacy > Settings > “Your Facebook Information” > “Download Your Information.” The file will contain your friends list and relationship statuses, but not the friendship dates.

Can I see someone else’s friendship history with me?

No, you can only see your own friendship history. The “See Friendship” page is mutual, but it only shows the date you became friends, not a detailed history of interactions. You cannot see any other user’s past friendships or relationships unless they have made them public.

General steps for current mainstream versions; menus can differ by device and version. See the disclaimer or report an error.

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